That's why he created a website and an app called 24Muslims can sign up and connect with other Muslims either in their own area or else where. And they have made it easier for smart phone-wielding Muslims to connect.
“Lots of grandmothers and aunties, they have these folders full of bio-data and they’re passing them around and saying, look at this girl, look at this guy, it’s like trading cards,” she says.
Bio-data are what Irshad calls "dating resumes." Many young Muslims feel like they're in limbo: An arranged marriage is out of the question, but they don't want to disrespect their family and religion. " — was the topic of conversation at a recent gathering of Muslim college students in Boston.
At home, "there was no such thing as the words dating or relationships.
It was just something that was non-existent," he recalls. "You see your friends, they go out on movie dates and they go to the mall and they hold hands," he says. And this creates a dilemma for young Muslims in search of love.
"The best advice I can give them is to think first about their relationship with God, with Allah, and then if they develop that relationship strongly, I tell them, make prayer, make supplication, that God put something in their path to make it easy to understand what type of spouse would be right for them," she told me. Tuba Muhlise Okyay, who is from Turkey, said in her conservative family, marriages are arranged.
There is, she said, a courtship period where the couple are accompanied by a chaperone on, say, a dinner.You set your boundaries with your partner." I also heard from an Iranian American, a Lebanese, a Moroccan and a Bangladeshi.They each had different experiences, depending on the family, culture and the country where they come from.She has coordinated large projects in Bangladesh, Egypt, India, Nepal, Uganda, and Vietnam.Amin has served in advisory capacities to PLAN-International, UNICEF, UNFPA, and the World Bank.She is a senior sociologist and demographer with decades of experience generating evidence on empowerment programs for girls and women.