If you ask, you will be welcomed with kind comfort, and a chance to receive your bride.
An engagement ceremony usually occurs half a year or so before the wedding.
In the past, most marriages were arranged by the parents or extended family, and while children were sometimes consulted, it was nearly always the parents' final decision.
The groom wears a simpler male equivalent of the dress, often in the color blue.
Previous to the Nguyễn Dynasty, it is likely that women simply wore fancy, elaborate versions of Áo tứ thân.
The first person would be the representative of the groom's house followed by the groom's father, the groom, then the rest of his family and close friends.
In the past, the groom's mother might not take part in the procession as a sign that she would not be a threat to the future bride; she would even "hide" for a short period upon the bride's welcoming to the groom's home. The number of people participating in the groom's procession varies but is usually restricted to a smaller number (20 or so) to make it easier on the bride's family, which must receive all the guests.Gifts are betel, fruit, cakes, a roast pig, fabric, and an abundance of jewelry for the bride. In Vietnamese beliefs, the odd number and the red color will bring luck to the young couple.] Upon arriving at the bride's home, the procession lights fireworks to alert the bride's family, who then lights its own round of firecrackers to welcome the groom's procession.Members of the procession are introduced to the bride's family, and the bride's family introduces its members to the procession.The bride and groom, in front of all their guests, will turn to their parents.Each parent will then give advice about marriage and family to the couple.In the procession, the groom, his family and friends bear elaborately decorated lacquer boxes, covered in red cloth.