I knew he loved me more than I loved him, and knew he would never leave me.
For background, I am a recovering alcoholic, have been sober almost 2 years.
To say I was a good wife prior to my sobriety would be a lie, I was not in so many ways.
I believe he did so because he did not realize I had the phone records for the year because I did not go into a lot of detail about what I found.
It took a couple days for him to realize I was very serious about my discoveries, and he has since been extremely remorseful, has gone to see a sex therapist and is going to his first 12 step meeting tomorrow night.
The first year of my recovery did not see many changes in our relationship as I suspect he did not think the changes in me would stick but the last year had been good, and I believed we had a good shot of making a happy life together.
And then he did two things that sent red flags up for me.He is doing and saying all the right things with respect to his recovery, but I do not trust him.Something in my gut is telling me it is worse than what he has admitted to so far.The disturbing parts were the amount of time spent on the calls, and the fact that they went to local call lines. When I confronted my husband I did so with love for him as I understand addiction and did not want to make him feel ashamed or judged.He was shocked that I had found him out, but offered only a little remorse.My husband and I had much more of a parent child relationship for many years, it certainly was not a healthy relationship.